Focusing On The Process

We are chatting you and I and as I'm listening,

 I hear your heart my friend. 

 I know because we are much more alike than you know. 

Of course you and I are talking about our marriages.....but the conversation could really be about any number of things going on in our lives right now.  Couldn't they???


I want to remind us both of a few things.I say remind because I believe you already know this stuff it's just gotten lost in translation so to speak.  

You say your overwhelmed, 

that you don't know which stone to start with.

You and I can't start with the whole stone, if we do then the stone often becomes a huge boulder? Now I'm already tired and I haven't even begun.  Why would I intentionally set myself up for defeat by trying to do something crazy, like rebuilding the whole coliseum.  But what if I start with one pebble, that's right I said one pebble.  God has already given me the strong foundation and an amazing man to journey with.  But sometimes I need to go in and do a little spring cleaning, sweeping out some those pesky pebbles and really good deep dusting of my own heart, right.

Instead of always focusing on the ultimate goal of being an amazing wife, having an amazing husband (or my version of one), perfect kids, a clean house, ETC. which of course always equals an amazing marriage right?  The reality is I have just set that boulder into motion, and that boulder has a name (Am I the only one who names her boulders??)  and that name is defeat, crushed, conquered, failure (again and again)

But I can't go there, I refuse to go there!!

Rather than me being mad because the ultimate goal of.... (again fill-in-the-blank)  isn't happening quickly enough for me.  What if I were to focus on the process...you know what I mean?  I tend to lose sight of the little moments.  Like unloading the dishwasher together. It's not about the dishwasher right, its about those stolen moments with your man that only you and God know about.  Hearing your kids laugh over silliness (don't kids have the best laugh!!), because they haven't yet been taught otherwise.

I can't be worried about my man's heart per say, but just mine.  I am learning to trust that as God is working on my heart, he is working on my man's as well and when the time is right God will do his own big reveal and it will be much sweeter than anything me or Hollywood could dream up.  We can't give up, if God doesn't give up, how can I?  Amen!!